Jess’ Homebirth Story
On the 23/05/17 at 40+4 weeks pregnant I woke up at 4am feeling a little disheartened labour still hadn’t begun after I'd had a few birthy twinges and a show the night before, I did some reflexology to help bring on labour and fell back asleep. I then woke at 7am to some mild surges, not really knowing if it was actually labour or if it was just another twinge, it just felt like a very mild tightening in my lower back. An hour later I was sure this was definitely going to be the day we meet our baby. Mild surges were coming every 10 minutes or so.
The birth of Indio Wild - By Holly Vincent
Indio Wild, this is for you, so when you grow up you will know exactly how you came into this world and how insanely proud I am of you, of us, our journey. It is magic.
You are a rainbow baby, a double rainbow baby, infact. Before your soul was arrived, we lost two sweet babes that never quite made it earthside. It was heart-shattering. But you came very quickly after, and you filled my heart with equal parts love and worry. I was scared that you would leave me, but you stayed.
Sitting firmly at the top of most women’s birth concerns is that niggling or sometimes screaming fear that she will ‘tear’ during second stage (pushing).
This worry can be so acute for some that it can actually effect their anxiety levels, causing their body to become tense and actually make them more likely to require stitches. So by just knowing the best way to avoid tears you’re reducing your anxiety and therefore already less likely to experience a problem!
I have created the below list in an effort to help you reduce your anxiety and also to provide you with practice tools and ideas you can use now or during your birth. Enjoy!
The doula, one of the many enigmas of birth. Who is she? What does she do? Why should I consider one? The idea of a doula can initially pose more questions than answers but once you’ve broken through the unknown aspects the role begins to make sense very quickly.
A doula in her truest form is...
Overdue'... What does that even mean?
The pressure this term can place on the mindset of a pregnant woman is immense. Suddenly after 40 weeks of a potentially worry free pregnancy she is facing medical interventions, dealing with daily texts from multiple friends/family members and pausing to consider every tummy grumble or tightening she feels. Why is so much focus placed on that one specific 'due date' when only 4% of babies actually arrive on it?! (Even then, it's likely labour has actually kicked off a day or two before) A pregnancy is generally considered to be full term at 38-42 weeks of pregnancy and given that 80% of babies arrive during that time, this gives a little more breathing space to the pregnant mum to be. She is not actually 'overdue' until 42+1.
A midwife, an artist, a mum of five, a cellist, a badass, a cinematographer, a fearless first time homebirther, the coolest couple in all of Europe, a vet, a project manager and a moonlit car park.
The women of my 2017 were as fierce and badass as they come. I watched some of you journey from a place of fear and doubt to elation and euphoria. I witnessed miracles as you breathed, moaned and birthed your babies into your warm outstretched arms.
Each of you have to taught me so much about birth but in all honesty I’ve learned more about myself and womenkind in our time together than anything else.
So you're gonna be a birth partner! You may also be about to be a parent, grandmother, aunt? You're committed yet nervous. This is a woman you love, your soul mate, daughter, sister or best friend? I get it, it's a major responsibility. You don't want to see her in pain, you don't want anything to go wrong, you want her to feel safe yet empowered and when exactly are you gonna eat and pee?
This guide is your starting block, use it to propel you into your journey toward this birth.